Long long ago when I created this blog, I had no visitors. Although my blog was public and was available for anyone to read, I hardly expected anyone. Writing was something I wanted to explore, especially after reading blogs (anonymously) for over a year. So, I started this blog as a journal. I remember sending the links of my first few posts to my close circle of friends. Come to think of it now, it seems stupid. The naïve me didn’t think twice about protecting my privacy but soon enough I realized what had happened and thankfully by then, people no longer remembered my blog.
Even after a few months of having a blog, I didn’t connect with anyone. Sole reason being I was not sure if my blog was share-worthy. And one fine day, I got a comment from My Era. I was pleasantly surprised and felt happy to have someone visit my blog regularly. I moved my blog to wordpress and connected with like-minded people and made some pretty good friends. It warms my heart to think of all those virtual friends (you know who you are) who have stood by me during the not-so-good times in my life.
There came a phase in my blogging journey where I looked forward to the comments and likes. Every like and comment seemed like a reward. An assurance that there was someone out there interested to read what I write. Next came the phase where the likes and comments came down – it is also the phase where I missed my favorite bloggers. Every one of us where caught up with different things in life and soon, I saw that my interest on blogging came down drastically too. Every few weeks I would think about it without coming to any conclusion.
I revived my food blog in 2015 and started posting frequently over there. Soon enough what I realized was that my food blogging circle needs working out too. I made new friends, got to know about different cuisines and different cooking styles. When all of us this was happening, I also realized that I no longer needed rewards in the form of likes or comments. Yes, every like and comment still mattered but I didn’t look forward to it. When I was blogging for myself, why does it matter what others think? In the blogging world, you get a like for like and a comment for comment. That is the hard truth and I learnt it while food blogging. Nothing wrong with it, as no one has the leisure time any more to read, like and comment. So I stopped associating the success of my blog based on comments/likes.
And just like, I entered the zen-zone of blogging. Today I read something because I love to, not because I have to. I visit my favorite blogs, enjoy reading their posts, like and comment without expecting any returns. That brought back the peace and independence I had all those years ago when I had no visitors at all. To not go behind the stats is liberating, strangely.