This is solely based on my experience and observation so far, while I am trying my best not to judge anyone’s parenting skills – I really cant stand these behaviors.
Last week I was returning home after a terribly tiring day at work. The grand-daughter of our house owner was playing all by herself on the stairs. Usually I smile at her, while she stares at me! That day was no different. This girl who was playing, suddenly sat down on the stairs – stretched her legs and arms as to block my way with a deadly stare. All this from a 6 year old. I stood there for a few seconds and not seeing that she would give me way, I had to slowly move her legs so that I could cross her.
If you think whats so wrong with this, consider the below scenario.
Yesterday, this girl happened to be playing with a boy of same age as her from our housing complex. A few feet away, the boy’s dad was playing with his younger son. From across the portico, this girl shouts – “Uncle.. do you know that I am the owner of this house?!” With a laugh, he answered yes. Then she turns to the boy and says – “Listen, you hear me? I am the owner of this house”.
It left such a bad taste for me. A little girl should not be saying things like this. I am sure she caught it from the elders of the house. OK. Its their house. Their big house. And we are all only staying for rent. But then shouldn’t the elders tell her its wrong to show such attitude? These people just sing and dance to her tunes. Sigh.
We were at a wedding lunch. A small boy of not more than 4 or 5 years old was running past the entire hall. I don’t know what got into his mischievous mind – he suddenly grabbed the food from S plate and threw it on the floor. No adults around him noticed this, so I mouthed him a NO. From across the hall, he was staring at me for some time and then suddenly, took a glass of water and threw it on me. Luckily his aim was not that good, so most of my food was still edible. My wet silk saree is another story.
When some uncle noticed this, he came forward and said sorry to me. Seeing that the entire family apologized profusely while that little boy was still smiling devilishly. No one told him what did was not correct.
Amma had invited our neighbours home for Varalakshmi Puja. Our ex-servant maid, her daughter and her grand-daughter were also present. I am always fond of babies and so, I went closer to this 1.5 year old. I didn’t even touch her or talk to her, before I knew she slapped me hard. Intentionally. And it was very very painful. Not telling that its wrong to hurt someone, the mother and grandmother were beyond happy that she is so mischievous. Really?!
There are always these kids, who come to our home as if their sole responsibility is to jump up and down on our sofa. Or worse, taking every doll or keepsake in the showcase to be their own. Now my dad is very particular about his things. Even if he is visibly unhappy that his stuff is being taken, the parents hardly notice this behavior. Once, we heard the parents say – Pls give that car to him or he will create more ruckus. How can they say this in someone else’s house I don’t understand?! Not only did my dad not part with his car, he gave an earful to those parents (Not that they were very keen on that idea)
As I said, my intention is not to judge these parents but what choice do I have?!