Amma finally visited Pinni last Friday. The resulting happiness is incomparable to anything in this world. As I said, it was during my wedding we all met. And even then, it was a couple of days. Now Amma is going to be with her for almost a week and clearly everyone is very happy over there. These are two sisters who have not stayed together for almost 12-13yrs now. What with in-laws still forcing rules on them and making them adhere to the nonsensical formalities. I can never imagine not meeting my sister for more than a month. Shows how much of personal sacrifices ‘that’ generation has made.
I believe we have something to learn with every difficulty we face. With my Pinni falling critically sick, true colors of some people have come out. Never did we imagine these people to take advantage during a situation as critical as this one. Well, I now know who are ones that are to be avoided.
Time and again, I am terrified of our hospital systems. My pinni had a high fever of 105deg for a day only. At the hospital, they reduced her temperature and sent her home. As soon as she came home, she fell down with a fit. She lost the ability to speak completely. Again taken to the hospital, they diagnosed it as a weak nerve between her tongue and brain. Gave medicines for some neurological symptoms. Her fever shot up again and she did complain of chest pain. Again, fever was treated. By evening, she fell down again. And thats when they saw her platlet count was as low as 15K when the min was atleast 1.5lacs. She was at high risk admitted into ICU. And as if all this was not enough, she had her period too. With such an alarmingly low platlet count, an internal bruise meant excessive loss of blood which didnt stop at all. Any amount of platelet tranfusion was not helping her condition. Everyone of us knew what this situation meant. Still, we all prayed hard for her safety. But guess what some of our relatives did – instead of reassuring, scared the hell of out of my uncle and cousins who ended up crying endlessly. They didnt stop there – called a number of our relatives and scared them too. If anything, these people should have been supportive and not the other way round. Lucky for my cousins, my pinni got her consciousness just a couple of minutes to say nothing will happen to her. Actually if not for my Pinni’s cooperation and confidence, doctors agreed that they couldnt have done much. Today, she is still recovering and should be under complete rest for atleast three months. As much as a small cut on her fingers while chopping vegetables could be harmful to her. But the good thing is, she can speak normally again (so much for the neurological symptoms found by the other doc) and is out of danger.
Dad’s retirement was just around the corner too. He had a number of tasks pending what with the hundreds of formalities. He was literally running like a headless chicken and was obviously not aware of things happening with Pinni, not that he didnt bother. He couldnt have got a leave with his retirement so close and the option of amma travelling alone was out of question. Both Amma and Nanna didnt know the real situation and the risk Pinni was going through. One thing I realized is, it literally killed me to keep Pinni’s health condition a secret from Amma. You know whats happening and you know what could happen. You also know what should be done but there is no way to make it happen. You end up praying hard and cry. I did that only. Not to mention all those people who would guilt you into thinking that you are not bringing your amma for one necessary visit too. Sigh. Thankfully, Pinni was out of danger just a day before dad’s retirement and peace was restored atleast temporarily.
Dad’s retirement was such a grand event. Friends from far and beyond poured in to wish him and attend the GM’s farewell function. While some people had tears in their eyes, some advised us to take care of him for them. Everyone agreed that he would be immensely missed and no one could ever replace him. My Nanna was a very happy man. They raised slogans while sending him off and this one stood out for me “Ramanujam of XXX”. A very proud moment for all of us. Some of his friends came until our house and we had to quickly take care of them. While the sister and BIL took over the snacks section, I was stuck with tea preparation. I would have made atleast two litres of tea and this from a non-lover of tea. While the tea was praised, I had severe headache from smelling only tea. I have decided that I am not making tea until 2027 😆 In other news, dad now has atleast half a cupboard filled with shawls and most importantly – turkey towels, thanks to all the farewells. We even considered opening a sale 😀